Every so often, we encounter a significant person who captivates us with an immediate and profound connection. We might recognize something in their soul, see a familiar glint in their eyes, or feel a powerful magnetism exuding from their energy.
There could be countless factors drawing us towards them, such as the soothing cadence of their voice, their unique style, the scent of their skin, or a resonating remark that ignites an inner flame which rapidly escalates into a blazing inferno. These compelling signs often signal the onset of a karmic relationship, where the individual feels strangely familiar, as if we’ve known them from a past life—a sensation that can be unsettling, particularly for those who don’t subscribe to the concept of reincarnation.
While we might experience similar connections in certain friendships, when it occurs with a romantic interest, our emotions and attraction elevate to an entirely new level. We may find ourselves yearning for their company, curious to learn more about them, and puzzled as to why their soul seems to effortlessly fit into our life’s complex puzzle.
However, karmic relationships can sometimes be abusive, either verbally or physically. It’s crucial for us to ponder why we tolerate such behavior, why we feel undeserving of respect, and why we let someone treat us poorly. The way others treat us mirrors our self-perception. Therefore, if we permit someone to mistreat us, it indicates a lack of self-love and self-care. We should be willing to withdraw from harmful individuals to protect ourselves.
Familiarity with negative behaviors, often rooted in early life experiences, doesn’t necessitate their acceptance now when we have the power to step away. Similarly, frequent anger and rage in a karmic relationship can be triggered by minor incidents, revealing old wounds and memories.
It’s essential to understand why we allow such behaviors to persist and delve into our inner selves to uncover what we’ve hidden away, inhibiting us from nurturing a tranquil, loving relationship. We cannot place the blame on others for our reactions; the onus is on us to recognize our behaviors, heal our wounds, and alter our responses and perceptions to prevent past experiences from influencing our present.
Often, we might try to exert control over the relationship through emotional manipulation or tantrums, driven by the fear of potential hurt. Ironically, our desperate attempts to avoid pain and trauma inflict more harm on us, as we cling to something over which we have little control. We can’t dictate someone else’s feelings towards us, nor should we attempt to control their life.
To relinquish control, we need to confront our fears, mend the parts of us that feel insecure, and address low self-esteem and self-worth, which often lie at the root of controlling behaviors, jealousy, and possessiveness. These traits tend to surface in karmic relationships, all indicative of inner self-doubt and diminished self-worth.
Instead of allowing relationships to replay our battles, forcing our inner demons to surface, we should introspect why these feelings of resentment and bitterness exist in the first place. This introspection will help us acknowledge our emotions, shower them with love and care, and accept our blend of darkness and light. It’s okay to have these feelings, as long as we control them and not the other way around.
A karmic relationship differs substantially from a soulmate relationship, as we constantly question our reasons for staying. We instinctively know that we have lessons to learn and patterns to break, and we choose this partner to help us understand ourselves better through role-play until the answers reveal themselves.
Such a relationship may lack authenticity, trust, loyalty, and respect, as we do not view the other person as a life-partner or a permanent fixture in our lives. This might sound selfish, and on several levels, it may be. These relationships serve as stepping-stones, guiding us to the next stage, often carrying an undercurrent of resentment as they expose us to our own truth—something we are frequently not ready to face.
Karmic relationships are prevalent when we have deep inner work to do and when we are vibrating at a low frequency. These relationships push us beyond our perceived limits and challenge our extremes, urging us to seek our true purpose and the meaningful essence of our lives.
Often, it is through a karmic relationship that we gain insights into what we truly seek from future relationships. As we delve deeper into ourselves and struggle with a partnership that isn’t a good fit for us, we learn more about our desires and needs.
When we have worked through our cycle of karmic relationships, breaking free from repetitive lessons, we achieve a profound understanding of what we truly desire from life. Some individuals may swiftly navigate through karmic love relationships, attracting a soulmate, but may still attract karmic friendships or face karmic conflicts with family members.
Everyone has unique lessons to learn, and each lesson presents itself in its own distinct way. Recognizing and understanding these lessons, being fully conscious of their presence and purpose in our lives, empowers us to break them down, comprehend, and resolve them, instead of reenacting the same script with a different cast repeatedly.
Our relationships should be wholesome and nurturing. Until we are fully aware and awakened to the lessons we need to learn, and understand why we seem to be stuck on repeat, we risk remaining entrapped in the same cycle, reiterating the same patterns over and over.
However, this doesn’t mean that karmic relationships can’t evolve into genuine, loving soulmate connections. This transformation requires significant self-awareness, acceptance, and inner work.
Exiting a karmic relationship can be challenging because they often feel addictive, luring us to stay and work through the patterns, untie the knots, and decipher our intertwined narratives. However, unless both parties are willing to put in the work, it can result in an even tighter knot. These relationships are not our destiny or fate; they are merely our past recurring until we learn the required lessons and make the right decisions for a balanced, healthy, and chaos-free future.
Change can be daunting as lovers, friends, and family may resist leaving their familiar roles. When one person steps away from this, they can either let go, allowing the other person to find their wings and soar, or rise to the challenge and create the necessary changes to thrive.
If we aren’t co-dependent and aren’t clinging to past trauma, we don’t need a relationship to resolve our karmic debt. We are strong, secure, independent, and capable of freeing ourselves from this debt alone.
Fear of the unknown often holds us back. However, when the “unknown” signifies breaking free from karmic relationships and discovering an authentic relationship, it becomes the least terrifying and the most rewarding journey. It offers a serene, nourishing, and overwhelmingly loving experience—the greatest gift we could ever give ourselves.
Alex Myles
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