Why Empaths Become Drained Around Certain People

Empaths are not only able to feel the emotions of those around them, but they can sense energy from the past and future—on any scale and at any distance.

They have invisible antennae and are natural transmitters of energy. This offers empaths an innate ability to receive, absorb, process, transmute, and relay energy, so that low, negative emotional vibrations turn into healthy, high, positive ones.

Transmuting energy is an alchemical process that changes the form, character, substance, and direction of energy. We are all alchemists, and we all have the power to transmute and alter emotional energy—however, this is one of an empath’s prominent skills, as they are emotionally intelligent, natural healers, and ultra-sensitive to energy.

Therefore, they quickly identify negative entities—and freely express love, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness, and understanding—so the vibration of energy instantly transforms, and harmful negative energy is transmuted to positive.

Some people transmute consciously, and others do it subconsciously. If we are not aware that we are able to transmute energy, we will likely be doing it subconsciously—and we may be transmuting constantly, which could lower our vibration and lead us to feeling exhausted and depleted.

Many empaths suffer with fatigue and burn out—transmuting other people’s energy, particularly when it is extremely toxic and low, is one of the main reasons.

If there is someone around us who is constantly on a low energetic frequency, they could be depleting our energy, which may lower our own vibration—so, it is important to try to remain in a constant state of energy awareness.

Empaths are sensitive to energy, and they attune to other people’s emotions, which means they immediately pick up on how other people are feeling. This can magnetically draw people toward them—or it pulls empaths toward others, as it feels natural for empaths to receive and process emotions to further enable healing.

The reason many empaths empathize at such deep and intense levels is because they temporarily take on and feel other people’s emotions as though they are their own. This can be part of the curse aspect of the “empath blessing and curse”, as it can be extremely painful and traumatic to feel other people’s emotions and feelings.

Emotions carry a strong vibration. The easiest way to describe an emotion is that it is energy in motion: E-motion.

Positive emotions carry a high vibration, and negative emotions carry a low vibration. High vibrations—such as unconditional love, kindness, patience, compassion, generosity, understanding, forgiveness, and humility—are capable of consuming and transforming low vibrations, such as fear, bitterness, resentment, rage, anger, jealousy, spite, and hatred. Low vibrations can also consume and cancel out high-vibration emotions.

To dispel negative energy, we just need to set an intention to emanate high-vibrational, compassionate emotions. For example, if we feel that someone is venting anger, we can pick up on the radiating negative energy—and then, focus on transmuting the energy by emanating strong, high-vibrational, loving, compassionate thoughts, emotions, and feelings, so that the low vibrations are lifted up and transformed into higher, positive ones.

If someone is directing low-vibrational thoughts, emotions, feelings, or intentions toward us—whether intentionally or unintentionally—we can radiate loving, light energy, so that the energy does not affect us.

Although transmuting is powerful, it is usually best not to expect miracles or believe the other person will change their thoughts, feelings, or intentions—as this will only happen if the person radiating negativity opens up to our energetic response and is willing to communicate energetically.

The reason empaths experience other people’s emotional, mental, and physical anguish is ultimately so that they are prompted to take action. Feeling other people’s pain and torment compels us to alleviate it—not just for the other person, but also for ourselves, so we no longer feel it.

By remaining consciously aware, we can keep the incoming energy separate from our own, so that it does not remain in our energy field for longer than the few moments it takes to transmute it.

Whenever someone projects emotional energy toward us, it is essential to remember that those emotions do not belong to us, and we do not need to absorb or hold on to them. If someone attempts to pull us into an argument, and we feel an impulse to respond, we can practice transmuting the energy instead.

When we are with a partner, friend, family member, or colleague whose energy is low and negative, we need to be cautious that we are not consistently taking on their emotions and experiencing them as though they are our own. Many empaths notice that they start to feel stressed, moody, or anxious when around people who feel that way.

If someone is radiating negative energy, and we are not vibrating on a high frequency, we can quickly become exhausted. Certain people’s company—or even their distant thoughts and feelings—can cause us to feel exhausted, irritated, frustrated, and overwhelmed. It can make us feel as though we are endlessly transmuting. When we take on someone else’s low-vibrational emotions, without being aware that they are not our own, we will likely start to feel energetically low ourselves.

This is why it is vital that we do not deplete ourselves through taking on other people’s emotions. Otherwise, we will not only become burnt out ourselves, but we also won’t be in a position to support and guide those we are responsible for.

Caregivers naturally and instinctively absorb the emotional energy of a distressed baby. We can see this when we see a mother or father respond to their baby screaming or crying. When the baby is talked to or rocked and soothed in its parent’s arms, the baby calms down and becomes peaceful and contented. The parents transmuted emotional energy—and, at the same time, altered the behavior of the baby.

If someone is not able to transmute energy easily, instead of being at ease while soothing the baby, they may engage with the vibration of the baby’s emotions and grow tense and upset themselves. It can then be far more challenging to regain harmony and peace.

Sometimes, it takes a moment for the parent to calm down after the initial baby’s screams. Then, as the parent expresses pure, loving emotions void of any tension, the energy begins to transmute. It is then clear to see both the parent and baby calmer and more settled as the transmuted energy affects and transforms them both.

Recent research carried out at the Institute of HeartMath supports this theory, with findings showing how a mother’s brainwaves synchronize with her baby’s heartbeat when they are in close contact. A mother can become more sensitive to the subtle information radiating from the electromagnetic vibrations of her child, which scientifically proves there is an exchange of energy from one human to the other.

When we are surrounded with people who are non-judgmental—and who radiate compassion and love—we will notice we feel less exhausted and we do not feel the need to transmute energy.

Alex Myles

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