When we are in the thick of a relationship with a narcissist, it can feel as though we are trapped trying to decipher a complex enigma. However, this type of connection is not as difficult …
30 Traits of a Narcissist
Mirror, mirror on the wall…the narcissist wants to be fairest of them all. I often consider the narcissist personality as being similar to the Jekyll and Hyde character, two opposing sides of a scale that …
Red Flags
The initial stages of a relationship can be deceiving as we are often on a high, a chemical high. We get those dizzy in-love feelings that swim around our brain, which are essentially just endorphins …
Coping With A Narcissistic Parent
Narcissists have many sides and they choose very carefully which side they wish to show depending on how it will benefit them. Therefore, when someone enters into a relationship with a narcissist it can take …
Why I Became A “Gray Rock” To Escape A Toxic Relationship
The most treacherous, difficult and dangerous time of an abusive relationship is usually when it is nearing the end. Many years ago I was intrinsically entwined in a relationship that was emotionally, mentally and physically …
Soul Mate or Hate?
Sometimes we meet someone and there is no explanation that accurately captures the intense connection and magnetic attraction that exists. Synchronicity and the universe have worked their magic to draw this mysterious person towards us. …
Why She Stayed
People often wonder why women, or men, stay in relationships that are either emotional or physically harmful. When you are on the outside looking in, you can easily see the devastation and destruction that is …
Why We Feel Triggered By Certain People
We are all responsible for our own lives, our own thoughts, feelings, emotions and belief systems. So why is it that certain people trigger us and cause us to behave in ways that we aren’t …
The Holiday Season & Narcissists
Spending time closely connected to a narcissist is difficult enough at the best of times, but being in a relationship with or closely connected to one over a holiday period can bring on an intense dose …
“Benching” – Is Worse Than Ghosting
One of the most bewildering, harmful, destructive, agonizing and goddamn infuriating things that can happen at the end of a relationship—whether casual or serious—is when someone leaves without saying goodbye or giving an honest explanation as to …
Understanding Ad Hominem Mind-Game Arguments Involving Narcissists.
I have lost hours, days, possibly even months of my life that I will never get back due to having conversations with narcissists that end with a mindf*ck. Every time this has happened I’ve noticed how …
Soulmate Or Wound Mate?
We commonly hear that when two people are magnetically drawn toward one another it is a sign that they have encountered a soulmate. When we first meet someone and feel pulled toward them it is usually …
Forgiving Someone Who Isn’t Sorry
“I never knew how strong I was until I had to forgive someone who was not sorry,” ~ Unknown~ I often see this quote, and when I read it, it resonates strongly. I have been …
Why Empaths May Be Attracted To People Who Need Rescuing
For years, I would run toward people who I thought needed to be rescued, and there’s a part of me that still does.
C-PTSD Following an Abusive Relationship
For many years I was in an extremely destructive relationship with someone who has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and during that time I was regularly subjected to a variety of emotional, mental and physical abuse. Every …
Empaths Cannot Heal or Change Narcissists
Many empaths are magnetically drawn towards narcissists and often they don’t fully understand the reason for this attraction. However, the reason is simple: To an empath, a narcissist is soul-wounded. Empaths are healers. Empaths are empathetic and …
Myths & Truths About Narcissists
Since I wrote about, “The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath & a Narcissist” five years ago, there has been an immense amount of attention focused on narcissists, and in particular, why people remain in relationships …
How To Recognise An Energy Vampire
We all have our own life force energy (prana/chi). When we are optimistic, healthy, and balanced our energy powerfully radiates, flows freely and naturally reenergizes. When we are emotionally or physically unbalanced, unhealthy, pessimistic, and …
How To Deal With A Psychic Attack
Energy attacks happen when a negative energetic vibration is directed toward us via other people’s thoughts, feelings, or emotions. This often happens when someone is harbouring anger, vengefulness, resentfulness, jealousy toward us, or feels rejected in …
One of the Biggest Myths About Narcissists
While narcissists share many similar traits with each other, as defined in the DSM-IV and DSM-5 (considered the authoritative source of mental disorders used by mental health professionals in the U.S. and elsewhere), they do not all share …
Can Someone Be Both An Empath & A Narcissist?
Empaths are highly sensitive people and can tune in to other people’s energy, including their emotions, feelings, motivations and beliefs. They can read people extremely well and some empaths are so highly attentive, observant, and …
Are You Being Hoovered?
“Hoovering” is a term describing a ploy that occurs when someone with a personality disorder tries to suck an ex partner back towards them after a period of separation. It often happens when the realisation …
The Love Bombing Technique
Love Bombing is a seductive tactic that is used when someone who is manipulative tries to control the relationship with bombs brimming with “love” right from day one. It often takes place within whirlwind romances …
Love Languages of an Empath & a Narcissist
Empaths and narcissists are notorious for having challenging relationships—emotionally, mentally, and even physically. Yet, despite this, they seem to have a magnetic pull toward one another. When an empath first meets a narcissist they usually …
Gaslighting: The Mind Game Everyone Needs to Know About
Unfortunately, there is a good chance that we have all been gaslighted by someone at some point in our lives, even if it was just on a small scale by someone we barely know. Sadly, …