When we are in the thick of a relationship with a narcissist, it can feel as though we are trapped trying to decipher a complex enigma. However, this type of connection is not as difficult …
30 Traits of a Narcissist
Mirror, mirror on the wall…the narcissist wants to be fairest of them all. I often consider the narcissist personality as being similar to the Jekyll and Hyde character, two opposing sides of a scale that …
Addictive Karmic Relationships
From time-to-time we meet someone special with whom we share an instant and intense connection. It can feel as though we recognise their soul, a look in their eyes, or their energy powerfully magnetises us …
Red Flags
The initial stages of a relationship can be deceiving as we are often on a high, a chemical high. We get those dizzy in-love feelings that swim around our brain, which are essentially just endorphins …
You Tried To Break Me, But You Made Me Stronger
I was madly and chaotically in love with you. Charmed by your every move. I fearlessly fell into love and abandoned all traces of sanity along the way. I trusted you. Though more than anything, I …
Coping With A Narcissistic Parent
Narcissists have many sides and they choose very carefully which side they wish to show depending on how it will benefit them. Therefore, when someone enters into a relationship with a narcissist it can take …
Why I Became A “Gray Rock” To Escape A Toxic Relationship
The most treacherous, difficult and dangerous time of an abusive relationship is usually when it is nearing the end. Many years ago I was intrinsically entwined in a relationship that was emotionally, mentally and physically …
Soul Mate or Hate?
Sometimes we meet someone and there is no explanation that accurately captures the intense connection and magnetic attraction that exists. Synchronicity and the universe have worked their magic to draw this mysterious person towards us. …
Why She Stayed
People often wonder why women, or men, stay in relationships that are either emotional or physically harmful. When you are on the outside looking in, you can easily see the devastation and destruction that is …
Why We Feel Triggered By Certain People
We are all responsible for our own lives, our own thoughts, feelings, emotions and belief systems. So why is it that certain people trigger us and cause us to behave in ways that we aren’t …
The Holiday Season & Narcissists
Spending time closely connected to a narcissist is difficult enough at the best of times, but being in a relationship with or closely connected to one over a holiday period can bring on an intense dose …
Loving Jekyll & Hyde
I was once chaotically in love with the tender beauty of the seductively sweet and sensitive Jekyll. And at the same time, I gave my all to the treacherous, callous and wicked tyrant that I came …
I Walked Away
I walked. Slowly and steadily. Away from everything that hurt. I didn’t run or try to hide. I didn’t escape because I didn’t want to face what was happening, or so that I could deny …
“Benching” – Is Worse Than Ghosting
One of the most bewildering, harmful, destructive, agonizing and goddamn infuriating things that can happen at the end of a relationship—whether casual or serious—is when someone leaves without saying goodbye or giving an honest explanation as to …
Understanding Ad Hominem Mind-Game Arguments Involving Narcissists.
I have lost hours, days, possibly even months of my life that I will never get back due to having conversations with narcissists that end with a mindf*ck. Every time this has happened I’ve noticed how …
Loving An Emotionally Wounded Warrior
Loving a complex, wounded warrior takes great strength and an extraordinary amount of courage. To pour love into a shell that is cracked, and badly splintered from the stormy thundering hell of past trauma, is testing beyond any soul-connection …
For Those who Wait For Those Who Leave
Darling, you could be the most dazzling explosion lighting up the moonlit sky, and still, they’d find a reason to look the other way. When someone is afraid and needs to run and hide, no …
I Was Never Crazy, Till I Met You
Your sweet lies mystify. You intentionally created an illusory pretense to keep me wanting you more. Me wanting you more, more than you’ve ever wanted me. I’ve tried to draw blood from this stone, but …
Soulmate Or Wound Mate?
We commonly hear that when two people are magnetically drawn toward one another it is a sign that they have encountered a soulmate. When we first meet someone and feel pulled toward them it is usually …
The Pleasure & Pain of Twin Flame Relationships
A Twin Flame connection is often defined by one thing: an instantaneous, intense and magnetic soul resonation. However for many, despite the heightened emotions and strong longing to connect with a twin flame, the opposite usually …
I Knew, The Moment I Saw You
The moment I saw you, I knew. But this love of ours has not been a fairy tale. Even though I recognized you the moment we met, I rarely recognize your ways. You bewilder me …
It Isn’t Your Fault That He Couldn’t Love You.
Please don’t ever think that it is your fault that this guy could not love you. Please don’t ever blame yourself by thinking you just weren’t worthy enough. He did not choose not to love you—he …
If You Have To Think About It, I’m Not For You
Please don’t come here with your wary, doubtful, guarded heart, asking questions to see if I’ll pass your impossibly challenging tests. I’m no longer interested in your vagueness and your fickle “maybes.” And I’ve given …
Realising I Was The Emotionally Unavailable One
I recently discovered something about myself that shocked me to the core. I had always believed I was open to love, that I was emotionally available on all levels, and that my heart was vulnerable, …
Forgiving Someone Who Isn’t Sorry
“I never knew how strong I was until I had to forgive someone who was not sorry,” ~ Unknown~ I often see this quote, and when I read it, it resonates strongly. I have been …